To celebrate the deconfinement in Texas, Anne-Marie organized a “real” dinner aperitif with a few friends in order to resume a social life. But all declined his invitation. The reason? Not want. For them, the end of this period under surveillance is not an issue. They are destabilized in front of an outside world which they do not recognize, often anxious, pessimistic about the future, in a word as in a hundred: they are afraid. No emotion, no elation at the idea of being able to be free to move again, no excitement as D-Day approaches and even less excitement to leave its cozy cocoon. But a nostalgia for a return to reality.
” Getting out of your home is complicated, you have to constantly think about the mask, gloves, gel and not being in contact. So I don’t go out any more than before, I especially wait for things to evolve, little by little “Confides to me my neighbor, deconfigured by law but not in my head. Despite the blue sky and the imminent arrival of summer, nothing helps, this ordeal we have gone through requires for some mental preparation to tear away from this slow-motion lifestyle. According to Doctor Antoine Mesnard-Duvroux, neuropsychologist at MD Anderson Hospital in Houston, our brain needs to readjust after a period between four walls, it must be stimulated again and used to managing the daily flow of our lives again. ” Even if we seem to be in this phase at the end of a vacation, our brain must also be gradually deconfigured because everyone has immersed themselves in the last two months in a different environment. “, Insists the latter.
Sylvie Miraudet has the blues of having to return to the brutal reality of everyday life. ” During all these weeks I took a breath, I took a break from my studies. I was able to take the measure of the stress that a life at 100 an hour can bring. No more obligations, burdens and pressures. I experienced it as a relief, a rest “, Stresses this young French engineering student that stress is gaining as the fateful date of deconfinement approaches. Her nights get complicated, even if she tries to get back into the bath: the belly ball is there. For others, it is the feeling of a golden parenthesis that ends. The one where family ties are tightened, that of a happier life, that finally of a peaceful homecoming with the impression that we were all in the same boat. The fear of seeing this solidarity fade away and the specter of a return to work 8 hours a day is a completely normal phenomenon, but one which is distressing. ” I feel that this supervised freedom has been beneficial and constructive. I fear to resume contact with the outside world because we will have to be wary of others and above all learn to live in an unwelcoming and coded world. Between sanitary measures, transport, not to mention the distances to respect at work, at the supermarket, it depresses me. Everything is complicated and freaks me out ”, my friend Véronique explains to me. Her last appointment with the dermatologist was a real disaster: because of the mask, she did not understand his explanations and barely recognized him.
The risk is still there, some prefer to play extra time
With a virus still circulating, this distrust and rigor becomes even more unbearable than confinement. Everyone weighs and weighs their actions and decisions. More room for improvisation and spontaneity. How do you get rid of this anxiety of being a danger to others and get out of your mind when you’ve been confined? Faced with this, some preferred to play extra time. ” If I am a potential threat to others but I can go out and even go on vacation, isn’t that taking the risk of a resurgence of the virus? It is a very disturbing situation where one is disoriented “Says Annick, who fears illness and fears the irresponsible attitude of some people. A daily life she doesn’t want. “Withdrawal as protection is the solution chosen because the uncertainty of the future and of what we are able to do, leaves the field open to anxiety and apprehension. It will take time to return to a stable emotional state “, Explains Doctor Mesnard-Duvroux. In short, it will be necessary to grieve for an era that is perhaps too protective and to have courage to challenge these changes. “Courage consists in dominating your fear, not in not being afraid,” said François Mitterand.
